When I was young there was a show called “Kobra, Take Over” (in German). Originally the series was called “Mission Impossible”, which we probably all know from the new episodes staring Tom Cruise.
This just occurred to me when I was looking at a photo of Anke and me from 2020. At that time we were out on our bikes and Anke took a selfie of the two of us from the position ahead. So, she drove ahead. She has taken the lead.
Is your attitude towards dealing with your partner or your colleagues “Kobra, take over … the lead” or is your thought when letting yourself fall back, “Mission Impossible”?
In the last few months I have become more and more aware that a relationship, both privately and professionally, is a give and a take. For most of my 44 years I have given rather than taken. Because “taking” means not being able to do it on your own.
Years ago, I scratched my trunk because I was too “proud” to briefly ask a neighbor if he could lend a hand for 10 seconds. “I don’t want to be a burden to anyone” or “I can do it myself” could have been my thoughts at the time. “Mr. motivational speakers needs no help. He can do it himself.” How stupid. From today’s perspective absolutely unimaginable.
Are you ready to ask someone else for help? To let someone else go ahead and take the lead? To be in an exchange together? Letting go instead of just tackling it? Yes, I know how difficult it is for you. However, there is your next step in growth. Out of the dependency of “I have to do it all on my own” and towards the preference “I like to do things alone and like to ask for help if necessary”.
How about asking someone for help today where it’s offered to you? If no one offers help, ask for it. And you will see that you will be helped 99%.